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When You Outgrow the Life You Built to Survive – For women who are high-functioning, emotionally intelligent — and quietly unraveling

A nervous-system-safe reflection for high-functioning women quietly outgrowing the lives they built to survive. Through real client stories and lived experience, I offer grounded insight into what happens when performing peace no longer works — and how I support women in the often-overlooked space between emotional exhaustion and full return to self.

You’re Not Behind. You’re Holding Too Much. A Nervous System-Safe Guide for Women Who Carry It All

She’s not trying to do it all. She just doesn’t know what she’s allowed to set down.

This isn’t a post about pushing harder. It’s about finally listening to the signals your body’s been sending — the brittle tiredness, the looped self-pressure, the quiet grief of being capable but always carrying too much.

If you’ve been wondering why you’re still tired when you’ve “done all the right things”, this is the recalibration your system has been craving.

Not another productivity hack.
Not another way to perform resilience.
Just one still truth:
You were never meant to carry this much alone.

Back to School Without the Breakdown: Why Your Teen Feels Off — and What Might Help

Back-to-school season isn’t just about sharpened pencils and new routines — it’s a full-body transition for young people and their families. If your child has come home withdrawn, overwhelmed, or emotionally off-balance, you’re not imagining it. These shifts aren’t just academic — they’re nervous system deep.

Whether they’re stepping into Year 7, navigating GCSEs in Year 11, or facing big life questions in Year 13, this time of year can bring emotional overload for them — and emotional whiplash for you.

This post shares why that happens, what might be underneath it, and a free resource to help you stay connected without pressure.

When Nothing Seems to Land: A Different Way to Support Your Teen (Teen shuts down. Won’t talk. Is it anxiety? Is it you? Read this before Googling another solution.)

When teens withdraw, it’s not defiance — it’s often their nervous system protecting them. This post explores why traditional support sometimes doesn’t land, what’s really going on beneath the shutdown, and how a steady, non-demanding presence can gently reopen connection. A must-read for parents carrying too much, looking for a different way.

Back to School Without the Spiral: Supporting Year 7, Year 11 and Year 13 with Care that Lasts

Discover how to support your child through key school transitions – Year 7, GCSEs in Year 11, and A Levels in Year 13 – with grounded mentoring that reduces anxiety, builds resilience, and helps families find steadiness during back-to-school.

When Your Child Pulls Away — And It Feels Like Rejection

A compassionate post for parents feeling the distance as their tween or teen pulls away. It explores what’s really going on beneath the silence — and how mentoring can offer a steady bridge back to connection, without blame or pressure. For families navigating emotional overwhelm, growing independence, and the ache of not knowing how to help.

When Care Becomes Costly: A Boundary Reframe for Therapists Who Give Too Much

As therapists, we’re trained to hold space — but no one taught me years ago to hold boundaries. After years of over-giving, I learned the hard way that care without containment leads to burnout. This post isn’t a complaint. It’s a conversation. A perspective shift for those of us who give with heart, but are ready to lead with steadiness.

Menopause Support for Professional Women: How Coaching, Mindfulness, and Reflexology Can Transform Your Wellbeing

I still remember the first time a client—a senior executive at the peak of her career—sat across from me and quietly confessed, “I feel like I’m losing everything. I’m not sleeping, I’m anxious, and I can’t talk about it at work.” She was navigating menopause, and despite her professional success, she felt isolated and overwhelmed […]

I don’t like my mother

I don’t like my mother. And I know there are many of you out there who feel the same. This is for you if you’re another woman who doesn’t like, or love your mother, please know you’re not alone! There are so many women around you who feel the same. Let’s drop the shame and […]

The Soulful Coach

Lesley Kerrigan | Emotional Recovery & Nervous System Coaching for Women, Teens & Family Dynamics – Rooted Support for Real Life Transitions. Wirral & Online